Pain vs Harm

Have you ever had someone ask you not to hurt yourself?  You may have the best of intentions and yet somehow it often happens.  A misstep, a slip, or even just misjudging where the edge of something is suddenly rearranges the priorities of your day.  Hopefully, it’s a momentary event, mixed more with surprise than actual pain.  My work involves understanding how we attract those situations to us, and how we evaluate pain vs harm.

Perhaps, it would be best to define pain and harm first.  What are they?  Pain, literally, is a sensation your body uses to inform you that there is actual or potential for damage to the tissues of your body.  That means, your body will actually sometimes scare you into not doing something because it’s afraid you might hurt yourself!  If you’ve ever been stretching and encountered pain unexpectedly, you may have experienced this.  Harm, then is when damage actually occurs.  Harm, also, is an inference to negativity vs positive, damage vs healing.  In other words, it may hurt to tear off a scab but if it allows the infection beneath to be cleansed then it likely has not been harmful.  If, on the other hand, you twist your own arm behind your back just to see how much pain you can handle, you are actually harming yourself.

Unfortunately, most of your life isn’t spent in such straightforward situations.  As a human, you have both a conscious and a subconscious mind.  Your consciousness only has a tiny amount of control over the energy exuded by you as an entity.  This is why I often remind people that the Universe is never not listening.  It hears you when you think about not wanting to harm yourself, but it also hears you when you think about your likes, your dislikes, your worries, your concerns and every other thought.   

What it comes down to, then, is understanding that you are always attracting to you the reality which you best understand.  For individuals who have suffered tremendously, they understand on a very conscious level, issues of safety and security that penetrate all the way to their core.  It has never failed to amaze me how we can end up twisted in knots (physically, mentally and even spiritually) simply trying to avoid pain.  You can literally harm yourself avoiding pain.

There is a wonderful side of this equation, then.  As a Healer, I get to work with the most amazing people.  Together, we delve into the pains, the lives and the experiences and we find the patterns of choice, of mindset and even of illness.  In understanding you find possibility to do things in ways that heal instead of harm.  In awareness you find the choice of action.  In opening up to yourself, you are given the ability to become the greatest possibilities of being yourself.

I hope this gives you a moment of thought.  No matter what your situation, there is always a place to begin or enhance your healing.  I would be honored to work with you!

Light’s Blessings,

Master Healer Meade Neumann

How mental pain creates physical pain


How many times have you wondered, “Why do I hurt?”  Pain is created in so many ways, but they are all a manifestation of something which you have experienced mentally, physically, emotionally or spiritually.  When it comes down to it, your body is a product of all of these influences.

Now, some pains come from sources we absolutely understand.  If you just spent an afternoon chopping wood and your normal routine is sitting on your rump, you probably hurt in places you forgot you had!  Your muscles are used to the patterns you lay down for them, day after day, and they respond to those routines.  The grow and stretch to allow for the daily use you give them.  Unfortunately, if your daily use isn’t very much, that’s all they’re used to moving and stretching and they can get quite irritated when you want to suddenly change their world!  In fact, I have watched many clients alleviate pain and discomfort simply by stretching and reminding themselves of their range of motion.   When you stop moving you may begin to feel trapped.  Simply moving and consciously being aware of a huge range of motion can reverse the trapped, helpless and cringing mindset which can bring on the pain.

Sometimes pain is less straightforward.  If you have ever been deeply distressed, grieving or depressed, then you probably have experienced a deep, body ache.  The important thing to remember during these times is to approach yourself with compassion and gentleness, but also with clarity.  What is hurting, specifically?  Don’t just let yourself get away with vaguely hurting all over.  It is easy to blow yourself off and just wallow in the pain, but it won’t get you anywhere except into more pain.  Your body is trying to tell you something.  Tension happens when coping mechanisms are being used.  Pain happens when coping mechanisms are being overwhelmed.  It may help you to process what you are going through by getting specific.  Don’t overwhelm yourself.  This is not about listing every symptom and scare yourself into believing you’re dying!!  It’s more about the idea that you can create space for yourself, in loving compassion, even in times of great sadness or conflict.

Chronic pain often follows a similar pattern.  You need to seek clarity and balance in situations like this.  What emotions are you feeling when you think about your chronic pain?  What situations seem to cause it to flare up?  Now, before your get overwhelmed, start asking yourself about the other end of the spectrum.  Do you remember a time when you didn’t notice that you hurt?  What were you doing?  What were you feeling?  It’s easy to get sucked in by the negativity of chronic pain.  You may even feel like you’re drowning in your own pain, confusion and distress.  Take it a step at a time.  Consciously create a positive moment where you know exactly what is going on and what you are doing about it.  It can be something as simple as picking up a glass of water or some other action which you don’t think will hurt.  Consciously ask yourself, “Does this hurt?”  If it doesn’t, celebrate!  You did something that didn’t hurt.  Congratulations!  Build more of those memories, so that when your mind tries to take you down the sad walk of how you always hurt, you’ll have an argument to disprove it.

Everyone is unique and so your pain is going to be unique to you.  There are solutions.  There is a path to health, but you have to be willing to explore your self in order to find the steps.

I hope this has helped you understand a little bit more about the link between mental and physical pain and what you can do to overcome it.  Want more information?  Schedule an initial consultation today with Master Healer Meade Neumann and become a conscious creator of your own health!